The most terrifying moment of my life has been outpaced, I have lost count, each time, by another. Truth so I am careful of the words for which I put forth.. the cadence for which I lay the foundation of my perception, internally..-me
I have lost every thing:
I wanted, dreamed of, fought for, prayed/begged/bargained/raged/cried for
For it to later understand it was only creating space to hold, next.
Implementation is everything. Planning counts, there’s is a time & a place for all and maturity taught me how to hear myself through others.
Welcome in about 24 hours we begin Bridges Narrative Intensive
The stories we tell..WHY or WHY not counts… To my fellow #storytellers
My deepest appreciation for cultivating & sharing your art & passion. It takes bravery.
I was a child that was too much, grew into the girlfriend that was too much, then upgraded to they wife that was, yep you guess it, too much. In fact most of my past relationships, that was the string of consistency.. I’m too much.
The cadence of my intrapersonal conversations and narratives. The ebb & flow of how I showed up & what I gave my ATTENTION too.
Gaining, consistency in shifting the narratives we perpetuate.
That is what Bridges Narrative Intensive Represents 8 weeks of :
Accountability to our inner power. Reminder of the truth. Shifting and writing narratives that create room, by acknowledging.
In just 8 weeks there will be a new year will you meet it with a new you, like we said… last years. And before years, to many to count?
Listen to me!!! Y’all when I tell you. Living this life beyond my wildest dreams and imagination took loses of more than I could have imagined. My house, cars, Jobs, “career choice”, marriage, friends, enemies, relationships…
The labels of who I was, thought I was and what those labels meant, truly.
Mother, wife, self, human, JamiQuan what defines ME. The story is yours.
Thank you for the AMAZING support, consumption, likes, shares & listens!
You, Yall! have given and continue to give in support of this passion.
The Me I Was Tomorrow
Click, Like, Share, Listen & Rate (Yep I said it again, In all the excitement I dont want you to forget. )
Wanna tell your story? Interested in being a guest?
Tonight!!! In less than an HOUR!
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WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT…
I heard it said that we are all in the same boat, but it’s not like that.
We are in the same STORM, but not in the same boat.
Your ship could be shipwrecked and mine might not be.
Or vice versa.
For some, quarantine is optimal: a moment of reflection, of re-connection, easy in flip flops, with a cocktail or coffee.
For others, this is a desperate financial & family crisis.
In some homes a sole occupant faces endless loneliness.
In others, family members are getting peace, rest, and time with each other —
While in still others, quarantine means an increased danger due to domestic violence.
With the $600 weekly increase in unemployment some are bringing in more money to their households than they were working.
Others are working more hours for less money due to pay cuts or loss in sales.
Some families of 4 just received $3400 from the stimulus while other families of 4 saw $0.
Some were concerned about getting a certain candy for Easter
While others were concerned if there would be enough bread, milk and eggs for the weekend.
Some want to go back to work because they don’t qualify for unemployment and are running out of money.
Others want to kill those who break the quarantine.
Some are home spending 2-3 hours/day helping their child with online schooling
While others are spending 2-3 hours/day to educate their children on top of a 10-12 hour workday.
Some have experienced the near death of the virus, some have already lost someone from it and some are not sure if their loved ones are going to make it.
Others don’t believe this is a big deal.
Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2020.
Others say the worst is yet to come.
So, friends, we are not in the same boat. We are going through a time when our perceptions and needs are completely different.
Each of us will emerge, in our own way, from this storm. It is very important to see beyond what is seen at first glance.
Not just looking but actually seeing
We are all in different ships during this STORM experiencing a very different journey.
Welcome to day 1 of our 30 Day Marriage Building Challenge
1 thing every day
A simple way to connect with your s/o over the next 30 days consistently.
Write a note, draw a picture, leave a quote.
Listen it can be as simple as a sticky note or a piece of paper.
If your feeling fancy stop by a dollar tree or
.99 cent store for cards and art supplies!
Listen don’t limit yourself there are stickers, crayons, markers and all kinds good stuff!
Have fun y’all and see ya tomorrow.
Ps. Meet us on FB and we’ll continue the conversation and more.
The 1st and 3rd TOP reasons listed for divorce/ separation
1. Lack of communication — 75%
3. Too much conflict and arguing — 57.7%
When you think about it they feed into each other.
Im all about them solutions, tricks & tips
Here’s 5 steps to help!
1. What are the RULES of engagement!?!?
Many times we have an idea of what and how things should be, but my favorite thing to teach
NO ONE IS A MIND READER, open your mouth and speak your expectations!
Does everyone know what is expected?
Has there EVER been clearly define acceptable behaviors and or expectations
Where they verbally agreed upon?
2. Ignore or confront
There is a time and a place for planned ignoring everything doesn’t require a response nor input.
There is NOTHING wrong with confronting an issue head on, the issue NOT the person.
Praise in public
Citizen in private
Keep your PERSONAL things personal the time and place is NOT in public.
4. Don’t jump to conclusions.
Even if you think it’s obvious give the a place for the UNKNOWN and allow the other party the opportunity to explain and provide their perspective.
Life is complex and issues that have lead to the feelings of conflict are complex.
5. Stop punishing think opportunity to LEARN!
Your partner is Not your child to punish.
Let that sink in… your partner is your equal and deserves the ability to resolve conflicts in a peaceful manner.
And my bonus:
So here’s something I would like y’all to consider and one I pose often to my clients
Think about the WORSE display you have given in anger towards the person you loved.. would you interact with your boss and co-workers in the same manner? MOST would say no.
With everything that I bring in this place I thank y’all in advance for the vulnerability in being here. Wishing y’all all the success with ease and grace as we grow!
Communication is listed as the #1 cause of divorce, with 78% of folks.
We have been it & complained about it ourselves!!!
So let’s start here! Solutions, skills & evolution!
Do you know the varying styles/ forms of communication?
1. Assertive communication
2. Aggressive communication
3. Passive-Aggressive communication
4. Submissive communication
5. Manipulative communication
Learn Your Communication Style take the quiz below
– Once you know your own you can understand how to use your skills effectively.
Join us! To continue the conversation & more.
Thank you in advance!
We are looking forward to seeing y’all!