The most terrifying moment of my life has been outpaced, I have lost count, each time, by another. Truth so I am careful of the words for which I put forth.. the cadence for which I lay the foundation of my perception, internally..-me
I have lost every thing:
I wanted, dreamed of, fought for, prayed/begged/bargained/raged/cried for
For it to later understand it was only creating space to hold, next.
Implementation is everything. Planning counts, there’s is a time & a place for all and maturity taught me how to hear myself through others.
Welcome in about 24 hours we begin Bridges Narrative Intensive
The stories we tell..WHY or WHY not counts… To my fellow #storytellers
My deepest appreciation for cultivating & sharing your art & passion. It takes bravery.
I was a child that was too much, grew into the girlfriend that was too much, then upgraded to they wife that was, yep you guess it, too much. In fact most of my past relationships, that was the string of consistency.. I’m too much.
The cadence of my intrapersonal conversations and narratives. The ebb & flow of how I showed up & what I gave my ATTENTION too.
Gaining, consistency in shifting the narratives we perpetuate.
That is what Bridges Narrative Intensive Represents 8 weeks of :
Accountability to our inner power. Reminder of the truth. Shifting and writing narratives that create room, by acknowledging.
In just 8 weeks there will be a new year will you meet it with a new you, like we said… last years. And before years, to many to count?
Listen to me!!! Y’all when I tell you. Living this life beyond my wildest dreams and imagination took loses of more than I could have imagined. My house, cars, Jobs, “career choice”, marriage, friends, enemies, relationships…
The labels of who I was, thought I was and what those labels meant, truly.
Mother, wife, self, human, JamiQuan what defines ME. The story is yours.
Thank you for the AMAZING support, consumption, likes, shares & listens!
You, Yall! have given and continue to give in support of this passion.
The Me I Was Tomorrow
Click, Like, Share, Listen & Rate (Yep I said it again, In all the excitement I dont want you to forget. )
Wanna tell your story? Interested in being a guest?
Tonight!!! In less than an HOUR!
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WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT…
I heard it said that we are all in the same boat, but it’s not like that.
We are in the same STORM, but not in the same boat.
Your ship could be shipwrecked and mine might not be.
Or vice versa.
For some, quarantine is optimal: a moment of reflection, of re-connection, easy in flip flops, with a cocktail or coffee.
For others, this is a desperate financial & family crisis.
In some homes a sole occupant faces endless loneliness.
In others, family members are getting peace, rest, and time with each other —
While in still others, quarantine means an increased danger due to domestic violence.
With the $600 weekly increase in unemployment some are bringing in more money to their households than they were working.
Others are working more hours for less money due to pay cuts or loss in sales.
Some families of 4 just received $3400 from the stimulus while other families of 4 saw $0.
Some were concerned about getting a certain candy for Easter
While others were concerned if there would be enough bread, milk and eggs for the weekend.
Some want to go back to work because they don’t qualify for unemployment and are running out of money.
Others want to kill those who break the quarantine.
Some are home spending 2-3 hours/day helping their child with online schooling
While others are spending 2-3 hours/day to educate their children on top of a 10-12 hour workday.
Some have experienced the near death of the virus, some have already lost someone from it and some are not sure if their loved ones are going to make it.
Others don’t believe this is a big deal.
Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2020.
Others say the worst is yet to come.
So, friends, we are not in the same boat. We are going through a time when our perceptions and needs are completely different.
Each of us will emerge, in our own way, from this storm. It is very important to see beyond what is seen at first glance.
Not just looking but actually seeing
We are all in different ships during this STORM experiencing a very different journey.
Welcome to day 1 of our 30 Day Marriage Building Challenge
1 thing every day
A simple way to connect with your s/o over the next 30 days consistently.
Write a note, draw a picture, leave a quote.
Listen it can be as simple as a sticky note or a piece of paper.
If your feeling fancy stop by a dollar tree or
.99 cent store for cards and art supplies!
Listen don’t limit yourself there are stickers, crayons, markers and all kinds good stuff!
Have fun y’all and see ya tomorrow.
Ps. Meet us on FB and we’ll continue the conversation and more.
The 1st and 3rd TOP reasons listed for divorce/ separation
1. Lack of communication — 75%
3. Too much conflict and arguing — 57.7%
When you think about it they feed into each other.
Im all about them solutions, tricks & tips
Here’s 5 steps to help!
1. What are the RULES of engagement!?!?
Many times we have an idea of what and how things should be, but my favorite thing to teach
NO ONE IS A MIND READER, open your mouth and speak your expectations!
Does everyone know what is expected?
Has there EVER been clearly define acceptable behaviors and or expectations
Where they verbally agreed upon?
2. Ignore or confront
There is a time and a place for planned ignoring everything doesn’t require a response nor input.
There is NOTHING wrong with confronting an issue head on, the issue NOT the person.
Praise in public
Citizen in private
Keep your PERSONAL things personal the time and place is NOT in public.
4. Don’t jump to conclusions.
Even if you think it’s obvious give the a place for the UNKNOWN and allow the other party the opportunity to explain and provide their perspective.
Life is complex and issues that have lead to the feelings of conflict are complex.
5. Stop punishing think opportunity to LEARN!
Your partner is Not your child to punish.
Let that sink in… your partner is your equal and deserves the ability to resolve conflicts in a peaceful manner.
And my bonus:
So here’s something I would like y’all to consider and one I pose often to my clients
Think about the WORSE display you have given in anger towards the person you loved.. would you interact with your boss and co-workers in the same manner? MOST would say no.
With everything that I bring in this place I thank y’all in advance for the vulnerability in being here. Wishing y’all all the success with ease and grace as we grow!
Communication is listed as the #1 cause of divorce, with 78% of folks.
We have been it & complained about it ourselves!!!
So let’s start here! Solutions, skills & evolution!
Do you know the varying styles/ forms of communication?
1. Assertive communication
2. Aggressive communication
3. Passive-Aggressive communication
4. Submissive communication
5. Manipulative communication
Learn Your Communication Style take the quiz below
– Once you know your own you can understand how to use your skills effectively.
Join us! To continue the conversation & more.
Thank you in advance!
We are looking forward to seeing y’all!
Ready to hear it! Here it goes
Imma tell y’all random things about me when your done share in the comments about you too!
1. I do not love choc but I’ll eat it sometimes frozen almond snickers why y’all didn’t tell me sooner!!!
2. I moved to NYC Harlem from Sacramento Ca in ‘15 by myself with 2 bags. That’s it. IM CRAZY! Then I moved up to 161& Yankee in da Bronx in ‘16. I left NYC because it’s COLD to long & the people show it.
👀 listen LINDA while I was there BOTH winters produced snow storms that had not been seen in 60 years. Closing the city & airport. NO ma’am no SIR that was my que to exist the state!
3. I love working with people & food. My dream… 🤫🤭to own a spot. With spices, snacks, sum sum to drink, a neighborhood spot, book store, small business pop ups! Plants. A baker who brings in baked goods!
Uncanny Living Cafe 🤗🔥 spot I walked by yesterday
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4. Books over TV! paper books then audio books. America Gods by Neil Gaiman is one of my favorite audio books
5. I’m a PK Military kid grew up Air Force. Certifiable cra cra some say. I like to say I’m well rounded & stay ready so I don’t have to get ready. THEY SAY THAT IM CRAZY… I just know what it feels like when the ceiling is GONE! @2chainz
6. I CURSE cause my granny cursed & my momma & dem cussed. I’m better but you will hear me, I’m not shamed. I saw what I say in love and awareness that’s why my clients & mentees come back
7. Owned my first home at 25 in Sacramento Ca. #Middlecoff
8. Walked away from my life & started over almost 9 years ago and I’m still figuring out what it’s going to be! I can & I am taking my time. Did you know I’m a coach & help others when they are evolving & transforming?
9. I’m a granny!!! She is hecka cute too.
10. I grew up in a seriously blended family. I had no idea or concept of “just” a nuclear family 🔥💛 bonus everything’s are everything!
11. If you see me running don’t ask RUN TOO! 👀 don’t say I didn’t say nothin. I read GOT before it was popular… more than once
12. @suntorywhisky_hibiki IS LIFE
13. I became serious about my meditation / yoga journey about 4 years ago.
14. I volunteered at the Emeryville Siddha Yoga #prisionproject
15. We have been blessed by a guru 3/18 is our 3 year anniversary of dating. Oh I’m married too 🙂 made a year in Dec.
16. Depression & Anxiety use to be my companions. I know what it’s like to live in a place where you have no idea, and I know what it’s like to work through it! Shifting the narrative.
17. I’m nekked almost 100% of the time when I’m at home. Everyone and anyone that knows me knows.
19. I love walking, nature hikes, geocaching. Rivers, water, ocean, mountains, hills valley I’m there for it. I garden, plant and cultivate live plants as often and where ever I can. I owned a plot at the community garden and can hardly wait to get back!
20. I’m a GEEK Comic-Con. Sci-fi & more
I have now managed to lose and keep off over 100lbs, reverse insulin dependent pill & shot Type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure & cholesterol. I am no longer depressed, anxious & debilitated with my existence.
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To discover the narratives that we created and shift them to best serve your future!
You wake up every day and there is ALWAYS going to be a group who says NO… A place that you stumbled, feel, let go or walked away from.
The Universe Creates NO voids. Know that when & where there is are no’s it’s to redirect you to the YES!
Remember, own, know.
Write your own stories
The Stories I Told Myself
A 21 Day Writing Intensive Workshop- #tsitm
All inclusive / All Welcome
This writing workshop is designed to:
1. Explore your conscious & unconscious narratives
2. Question everything, (How have your stories served you?)
3. Consider what is fair value, now. (What do you want now?)
I’m rooting for you!!! I’m SO PROUD Of YOU
I SAID IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!! Go head!!!
Got rejected or turned away?
Chicken soup for the soul was rejected 144 times before it was picked up!
Feel like letting go or giving in!? Been there, kept goin.
It’s alllllll good!
YOU are 1 step CLOSER after every rejection & every no!
Today CSFTS has 250 TITLES with more than 110 MILLION copies sold thus far
Think like #jackcanfield KNOW your better than good 🙂
YOU are on the right track!
Somebody needs this today 💛🔥🙌🏾I’m rooting for you!!!
Ps go sign up for my email list @Jamiquan.com
Pss. #tsitm GO sign up!
The stories I told myself. 21 Day Writing Intensive!
Thank you in advance for the shares, likes, and participation! Now go share! 🙂
“You either walk inside your story & own it or you stand outside your story & hustle for your worthiness.” ~Brene Brown
You have decided to be the conscious creator of your narrative. I know you are both excited and other thangs to, its ok..
The stories you told served you. They had a purpose and got you this far.
You realized you have evolved & that requires a new narrative.
It seems simple, just a story.
Over 21 days we dive deep.
Exploring, evolving, and creating safe space to share and gain new tools.
The questions & writing prompts are simple. The process worth your while.
Sign Ups are OPEN & bring a friend!
I’m rooting for you!!!
I’m SO PROUD Of YOU
I SAID IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!!
Got rejected or turned away?
Me oh just 120,975, 799,842 & counting
Goodness this month has had its ups & twists. I thought I had most of it mapped out & at list remedially figured out only for the end result to be less than I hoped for!
Shit I’m no expert but I do have a college education & I’m computer literate (listen I been around sense internet was dial up! I got a badge to prove it! )
I did my research, asked questions, even watch some damn videos. Prepared ya see… and I still need more lol
So Im trying NO doing
and some more
Chicken soup for the soul was rejected 144 times before it was picked up.
I have felt that moment where I’m really thinking is this really worth it? Maybe I should just let it go & givin up and moving on.
Been there, kept goin.
It’s alllllll good! Being able to sit down and think it though is important & a huge part of my evolution. The ability to really question myself, hold myself accountable again & again. Going back to the original hypothesis and being wise enough to re-work my ideas!
YOU are 1 step CLOSER after every rejection & every no! That’s the KNOWING that helped me shift.
Chicken soup for the soul was rejected 144 times before it was picked up by a publisher that was NOT popular either. In fact the publishing company was facing some financial hardships themselves BUT still took the risk, even after just about EVERYONE else said no.
Today CSFTS has 250 TITLES!!! That’s separate books!
The book has sold more than 110 MILLION copies thus far…
Be like #jackcanfield
I will walk through 1000 NO’s of rejection and I would walk through 1000 more just because I KNOW I’m that gal who walks through REJECTIONS to arrive at SUCCESS DOOR!!!
🙂 YOU are on the right track! HAPPY Wednesday. Somebody needed this today
💛🔥🙌🏾I’m rooting for you!!!
Ps go sign up for my email list @Jamiquan
Pss. #tsitm GO sign up! The stories I told myself. 21 Day Writing Intensive Workshop is Open for enrollment
This writing workshop is designed to:
1. Explore your conscious & unconscious narratives
2. Question everything, (How has your stories served you)
3. Consider what is fair value, now. (What do you want now)
Each week a has a theme & a daily prompt to write about, explore, support, share & discuss.
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Over 21 Day we cease the hustle & shift to worthiness of ownership. Our goal is to cultivate & evolve in consciousness. Knowing we are creators & soul narrators of life allowing ourselves to be transparent & vulnerable.
Thank Yall in advance for the support in watching the video, signing up for the email list, sharing the event and where it fits JOINING US!!!!
Today is the official Pre-Launch & Open Enrollment
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The Stories I Tell Myself
Classes Begin 02.March.19
All inclusive / All Welcome 18+
$49 Individual / $69 Couples
Decided to be the conscious creators & soul🙂
Oh the stories we have inside of us, lol
Community I appreciate y’all.
Thank you in advance for your time & feedback
Would you consider doing a quick review of my site I went live today and I would appreciate your input, support & shares where they fit.
Don’t hurt to enroll if the workshop suits you either! 🙂
Thank you in advance for the time & brutal input